True personal freedom can only be achieved when we let go of struggles with, and suffering over, the actions of others. Holding onto anger over what people do or fail to do can trap us, keeping us tethered to situations we can’t control. By becoming aware of our own imperfections—such as actions we might regret or avoid—we can focus on a better use of our time and energy: releasing grudges and freeing ourselves from old resentments.
Much of our inability to break free from negative emotions stems from a common misconception: that justice can only be achieved by “fixing” others who have wronged us. Yet, the reality differs. The universe operates on principles that ensure balance, a natural “invisible justice.” By understanding this, we align ourselves with a profound sense of freedom, one that doesn’t rely on controlling others but rather on recognizing the existence of this justice system within our lives. Freedom isn’t something we force into being; it’s an innate principle, one we can experience simply by being aware of its reality.
We are all familiar with the saying, “What goes around, comes around,” a principle reflected in the concept of karma. This universal law suggests that what we give will eventually return to us. Though we may not always witness the results directly, rest assured that harmful actions are met with their natural consequences, just as positive actions yield positive outcomes.
So, how often do we let anger and frustration consume us over perceived wrongs? When we hold grudges, we become prisoners of those we wish to punish, inadvertently sacrificing our own peace. Focusing on someone else’s wrongdoings only invites more negativity into our lives, keeping us trapped in a cycle of frustration.
Instead of trying to control or “fix” others, it’s better to recognize that each person’s actions bring their own natural consequences. Their negative behaviors often become a punishment in themselves. By practicing this awareness, we free ourselves from the initial pain of negative reactions and avoid the trap of trying to correct situations that life is already balancing. Letting go of judgment and unnecessary worry not only brings peace but also leaves us invulnerable to being held captive by negativity again.
For over 40 years, Guy Finley has guided individuals toward inner freedom and a more fulfilling life. His teachings address issues like anxiety, fear, self-discovery, relationships, and personal peace. An acclaimed author of 45 books, including The Secret of Letting Go, Guy’s works have been translated into 30 languages, helping millions worldwide. As founder of the Life of Learning Foundation in Oregon, he offers weekly programs through InsightTimer.com and live-streamed events at the foundation. For more on his work, visit GuyFinley.org.
